Everything that God creates has a structure. God gave us structure
to protect us. There is enormous structure in the spirit world. Kings, kingdoms, rulers, and
authorities, rule the spirit world. (Ephesians 6:12, Colossians 1:16). There is a chain of command.
God is the Supreme ruler of all and Satan is the ruler of darkness. Satan has no power over
Christians. God purchased our freedom with the blood of Christ. We WERE rescued from the ruler of
darkness at the Cross. (Colossians 1:13-14, 2:15). It has already happened. We need not live in
Satan's bondage any longer.
So why does Satan continue to destroy lives and marriages of Christians? Why are we afraid when we
are the victors? "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected
knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten
the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children" (Hosea 4:6).
Satan only has the power over us that WE give him. We give him power when we are not sober and
diligent in living according to God's structure. Living apart from that structure is rebellion.
We give him power when we live as victims instead of as victors. We give him enormous power when
we live in rebellion to God, and in unforgiveness.
This is VERY IMPORTANT!
Right now YOU have a choice to obey God and take the next step in having a closer relationship with
Him, or you can live as the world does and never have true joy. You can live in bondage as a
victim, or in freedom as a victor. Satan tries to destroy Christian marriages because of the
devastating affects it has on Christians, and the beneficial affect it has on his kingdom of
darkness. However, if you are obedient to God's structure, God can turn your marital strife into a
testimony to help others. This trial you are going through can be the one event that jumpstarts
your spiritual life and takes you to a higher level in Christ. If you only learn one thing from
this website, please learn this:
God wants you to have the mind of Christ.
There is no better way to learn what the mind of Christ is than to go through marital strife! IF
you are willing to lay down your pride and seek the Lord with all your heart, He will show you
what His WAY is. It really is simple. He wants you to WALK IN LOVE AND FORGIVENESS! This is the
way to a deeper relationship with Christ! If you can truly comprehend this, you will have a
deeper relationship with Christ. If you do not forgive, God will NOT forgive you (Matthew 6:15,
Matthew 18:35, Mark 11:26).
THE MIND OF CHRIST - The entire duty of man is to love. "He that
loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." (1 John 4:8).
We are to love God and we are to love our spouses. Jesus said
that if we love, everything else is automatically covered (Matt 22, Mark 12, Luke 10). When we
don't do that, we are out of God's structure. We are not under His covering. We are in rebellion.
People don't realize that the spirit world is REAL. When we are in rebellion, Satan gets to wreak
havoc on us. But if we have the mind of Christ, Satan has no power over us.
Jesus is perfect. We are not. Having the mind of Christ seems so complicated. After all, spouses
hurt each other. How can we forgive our spouse when they have hurt us? Certainly there must be an
exception somewhere so we don't have to forgive them, right?. I'm sure we can all evaluate our
spouses and then present our findings to the Lord and beg him to let us out of our marriages. Do
you see where I'm going with this? I just learned something a little while ago that I couldn't
grasp before. Having the mind of Christ is NOT about focusing on what is wrong and then trying to
get out of things. Having the mind of Christ is about focusing on GOD, seeking, serving, and
obeying HIM. If you have the mind of Christ, you can love your spouse regardless of what they do.
Instead on focusing on their faults, your focus is on how you can get closer to the Lord. By doing
this, your marriage is going to improve by default.
Over and over people kept telling me that I needed to focus on God, and not on my wife. I tried
but I miss my wife so much. It hurts me to see her in bondage to her past. She is the love of my
life whether she hates me or not. I've prayed and prayed and shed many tears. I've begged God and
I've bargained with Him, to set her free. But over and over He said that He wanted to work on ME.
I got so sick and tired of people telling me to work on myself when I have been doing just that the
entire time since the abandonment. I told myself, "If I hear that one more time, I'm going to
scream!" I didn't abandon anyone! I hated hearing that over and over because God was growing me
almost faster than I was able to keep up as it was. However, I kept missing one thing. The mind
of Christ. Please listen to me about getting help for yourself even though you may be ready to
scream. THERE IS A REASON FOR THIS. It has to do with God's structure.
Christ is the head of the church.
Husbands are subject to Christ.
Wives are subject to their husbands.
This is God's structure. As Christians, Christ has authority over us. Husbands have authority
over their wives. With authority comes responsibility. It is important to use this authority
wisely. But what does this all mean? Husbands are to submit to Christ. That means that as
husbands, we MUST be obedient to Christ and that we are accountable to Christ for all that we do.
We are the head of the family. It is our responsibility to submit to Christ's guidance and not
rebel against what He tells us to do. But the Bible says that husbands and wives are to be subject
to one another. And this is the one point that many husbands don't get. Somehow this point gets
lost. Husband's, it is not your way or the highway. You and your wife are ONE and if you are not
considerate of her, you are in rebellion to Christ! You are responsible for weighing each decision
carefully and making the decision that best suits the family unit. You must always make the best
decision regardless of whose idea it is. It is my suggestion that if a decision is equal between
your idea and your spouses, that you choose your spouses idea. I'm not suggesting that you do
everything your wife's way regardless of the benefit. That is the spirit of Ahab and it is also
dangerous to a marriage. If your idea is more beneficial, then be man enough to choose your own
idea and explain why.
Wives, do not rebel against your husband. If you do, you are in rebellion against Christ. This is
the spirit of Jezebel. This spirit is extremely destructive. Not only is it destructive to the
marriage, but it is destructive to the wife specifically. The Jezebel spirit loves to inhabit the
female reproductive organs. A person with the spirit of Jezebel often is sterile. The spirit of
Jezebel causes extreme lower abdominal pain. When this spirit is cast out, the pain disappears.
This is not a medical problem but a spiritual problem. This spirit cannot be cast out until the
rebellion against the husband stops and is repented for. The legal authority must stripped away
from the demonic spirit. This spirit can enter in childhood when a victim of abuse rebels against
their abuser. You can learn more about the spirit of Jezebel by reading Spiritual Warfare by
Wives, God set up the hedge of protection under your husband for your protection. This is God's
structure. When you rebel against your husband, you are allowing Satan the authority to work in
you. Yes, the demon of rebellion will be given authority to enter you. You do not answer to God
for your family. Your husband does. He will be judged for his decision. If it is the wrong one,
he takes the blame, not you. If you disagree with him, let him know why and respectfully request
that he reconsider. God demands that you support and not rebel against your husband. Accept his
final decision and let him know that you love him and stand by him. There is nothing more loving
that a wife can do than to stand by her husband no matter if she agrees with him or not.
What if my spouse is in rebellion against God?
Husbands, suppose your wife has abandoned you and is living in rebellion against God's structure.
Are you no longer in authority? What do you do? You must work on yourself and have the mind of
Christ. What does that have to do with your wife, you ask? Your wife is in extreme spiritual
danger. She is no longer under your spiritual hedge of protection. She is extremely vulnerable to
demonic control. She has opened herself up to demonic attack because she has rebelled against God
and His structure. There is a literal spiritual world. This is not a figurative hypothetical realm.
You have the authority to come against every force of darkness and pray her home, in the name of
Jesus. However, if your own life is not in order, the devil will exploit that. By submitting
yourself to God and seeking Him with all of your heart, you can get all of the junk out of your
own life and exert your God-given authority over the spirits attacking your wife. That is why it
is important to clean yourself up. You cant come against a demonic spirit in your wife if you
have given authority to that same spirit in yourself! Does it all make sense now?
Wives, your situation is different. What if your husband abandons you or is doing something else
that is in rebellion to God's structure? What do you do? You must work on yourself and have the
mind of Christ. You too need to get the junk out of your life. You need to stop looking at your
husband's failures and pray for his success. Your duty as a wife is to build up your husband
whether he is serving Christ or not. If you are a Christian, you must submit to your husband
whether he is a Christian or not. You need to win him over with your Christlike behavior. If your
husband has left or is doing something immoral, you must fight for him spiritually as well. Submit
your marriage to your church and let your pastor be your spiritual authority if your husband is
being immoral. Under no circumstances are you to take action against your marriage. That is
rebellion against God. You do NOT have the authority to do that. Any separation must be for the
ultimate purpose of reconciliation and should then only be done under your pastor's authority. If
you do not follow God's structure, you will be opening yourself up to demonic attack. Then you
have absolutely no protection since your husband has already given authority to the devil.
This is real folks. This isn't a game. When you rebel, you are destroying your relationship with
Christ. When you choose to follow God's structure, your focus changes from your spouse to God.
God will honor that and your spouse will change. But more importantly, you will have changed.
When you seek to be closer to the Lord, the result will be a closer relationship with your spouse.
Seek God and the rest follows. Stop worrying about the things your spouse does that you don't
like. Seek the mind of Christ!
So what is the mind of Christ? What "revelation" do I need in order to have true joy? What do I
have to do to have a happy marriage and life?
What is the key to living in true joy? What will truly change your life and your marriage forever?
Don't live as the world lives, live as CHRIST lived!
What makes a true Christian different from other people? They don't live like the world. There is
a noticeable difference between a true Christian and the world. Christians are to have the mind of
Christ. Let the Holy Spirit control your life. Check out the book of Ephesians:
Live no longer as the ungodly do, for they are hopeless confused. Ephesians 4:17 (NLT). That means
no bitterness, no unforgiveness, no divorce, no pride, no independence! It means LOVE, FORGIVENESS,
"Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because
of your love. Always keep yourselves united in the Holy Spirit, and bind yourselves together with
peace." Ephesians 4:2-3. (NLT) - The Holy Spirit unites and is the author of peace. Love promotes
unity, humility and peace, and is of the Holy Spirit. A demonic spirit promotes division, strife,
"Until we come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God's Son that we will we be mature and
full grown in the Lord, measuring up to the full stature of Christ." Ephesians 4:13 (NLT) - The
knowledge of God leads to unity. Coming together in Christ promotes spiritual maturity.
"Don't sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still
angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil." Ephesians 4:26-27 (NLT) Anger, bitterness,
and unforgiveness gives the devil a literal hold in your life.
"Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ
has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32 (NLT) - More "mind of Christ".
"…the terrible anger of God comes upon all those who disobey Him" Ephesians 5:6 (NLT) WHAT???
All? Won't God forgive me if I just want to be rid of my spouse and divorce them? God forgives
all who repent of their sins. But how can you repent for something you are glad you are doing and
have been planning for months? God is gracious and He will lead you toward Him. But that will
come through much pain if you purposefully choose to defy him in rebellion.
"But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy,
peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control" Galatians 5:22-23.
(NLT) - If you are not showing your spouse these qualities, you are not controlled by the Holy
Spirit but a demonic spirit.
"Don't be misled. Remember that you can't ignore God and get away with it. You will always reap
what you sow!" Galatians 6:7 (NLT) - You will be punished for defying God's order in your marriage.
But if you truly repent, you will reap blessings!
"And EVERYTHING you do must be done with love" 1 Corinthians 16:14 (NLT) - The mind of Christ.
"Let love be your highest goal." 1 Corinthians 14:1 (NLT)
"If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth but didn't love others, I would only be
making meaningless noise." 1 Corinthians 13:1 (NLT) - Spiritual gifts, going to church, praising
God, etc., all mean nothing if you don't love. You can't love God and hate your spouse. That is
living a lie. It is just a charade. Make loving God and your spouse your highest goal above ALL
"Love...endures through EVERY circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13:7 Christian love endures because it
is based on Christ, not your spouse's performance. Love is an action. People are imperfect and you
may not always feel love, but if you have true Christian unconditional Agape love, you will always
be able to put love into action. If you can't, you need to examine yourself and see which spirit
you are letting control your life. Who truly is Lord?
I could go on and on. It is difficult to explain the correlation between God's structure and the
mind of Christ in words. But when the Lord reveals it to you, you will experience the freedom of
loving your spouse without having to critique their behavior.
SLAM the divorce door shut! Divorce is the mind of Satan. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy.
The Holy Spirit comes to restore peace in your marriage. You must obey God to have true joy. Bind
your will to HIS will. Ask God for HIS thoughts to be your thoughts. Make God’s purpose your
purpose. Think and act as JESUS would have you act! Do not act out of your own human carnal
nature of bitterness and unforgiveness! This is rebellion and is as the sin of witchcraft.
Please try to grasp this. If you print this out and give this to your spouse, you have missed the
whole point. Seek Christ first and the Lord will provide people that will be able to help your
spouse and your marriage. If you seek the Lord, He wont be shy in giving you prophecies and Words
of Knowledge. Satan is trying to destroy your marriage. But God is using Satan's own situation to
provide you the opportunity to really get to know Christ like you have never known Him before.